Make sure that you’re both on the same page though. Yet seventy-nine percent said they would still be upset if they found out their hookup had hooked up with someone else.
If one person in the hookup thinks of the situation as more couple-like than the other, this can lead to serious hurt on that person’s end. Does this mean we think our hookups, no matter how casual, should be exclusive?
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You've actually met the friends you see on his Instagram that you stalk religiously. is just a hookup and "come over to my place around 11" is not a date, people, come on. You regularly eat full-scale meals in a public place with breakable dishes. People don't open up to people they don't care about. So if he feels close enough to you to tell you about his parents' divorce and how he was picked on in seventh grade, he obviously feels closer to you than to Sara Who I Saw Naked Once. He's listened and been empathetic when you opened up about some very real shit. You talk as much as two junior high girls with unlimited texting plans. If your plans are more "OMG, we have to go to the botanical gardens Friday. " instead of "Hey, just seeing if you're around on Friday and would maybe want to get together?
On any college campus, it’s a classic situation to casually hook up with a guy you may, or may not, know very well.
What happens, though, when he becomes your go-to hookup?
There is a distinct difference between meeting his friends (even if he does introduce you by name only or as his "friend"), and knowing who all his friends are because you're on his Instagram 24/7 and he tags them in his photos. If you've moved past bars and Starbucks runs, and actually eat at nice places with cups that aren't made of paper, and this happens more than once every few months, that is not typical fuckboy behavior and that's a good thing. It's one thing for someone to open up to you, but if he can also be receptive and kind and comforting when you're feeling vulnerable and sharing something that is hard for you to share, these are the building blocks of intimacy, my friend, and they do not usually show up in FWB situations. You've asked him if he was sleeping with anyone else and he said no like it was weird that you asked that.