I can’t believe I have to say this, but based on how frequently I, and friends I know, get creep messages, it’s eternal advice.
Not being a creep is actually so easy when you think of the person on the other end as a living, breathing human.
One of my favorite lines, given to me from a colleague, is just using a person’s name with an exclamation point. ” is friendly without being creepy; it’s sort of personalized, but also takes zero effort.
Sam Biddle wrote a (RIP) piece on the only line you’d ever need: “There she is.” (I personally find this creepy, but maybe it’s the GIF that greets you when you open the page.) Biddle reports overall success.
Dev’s copy-paste method works, in theory, because of its “originality.” It’s different from the type of message most women are used to getting.
As a serial non-responder, I can recall the number of Good Messages I’ve gotten pretty easily. “I see that Pikachu on your shelf.” I’d used the selfie in question for months, and not a single person had ever pointed that out.
Here's the thing though, my friends — given the cultural climate of dating nowadays, online is really the only way to go.
All these openers have gotten responses for me personally and for many of my clients. If anybody has other openers that work well for them online, post them in the comments.
But how do I know you’re not actually a crazy cat lady who stays in all weekend to watch Bravo 24/7?
There’s nothing more juvenile than two people waiting for the other person to respond.
You’ll never know why people reject you on a dating app (unless you’re clearly being gross), but all you can do is keep trying.
Do you really have the energy, emotionally or physically, to see this endeavor through to a first date, let alone some semblance of a relationship?
If you swipe on someone, be prepared to message them first.
’s second season, viewers took their love and adoration for the show to a place made for love and adoration: dating apps.