Deb Daufeldt, MA, MBA, NCC - you’re looking for an exact amount of time that you should wait to see if someone you’re dating will commit to a relationship, you’re going to be sorely disappointed by what even the experts have to say.
However, if you’re looking for some thoughtful guidelines, read on.
I generally weave this into the conversation by the second or third date.2. If you want something long term, you should be looking for a guy who wants the same thing. The same thing applies for what he’s telling you through his actions.If you’re very anxious, your partner is probably giving you good reason to be. I think we all have a cousin or friend who’s spent three, four, five, or more years waiting for her boyfriend to be ready to propose or move in.Better yet, from the get-go, seek a partner who eagerly expresses interest in finding someone for the long-term and whose behavior backs that up 100%. Sometimes this has a happy ending and other times it ends in resentments, heart break, or rejection.. You can’t make your partner commitment (and if you could, that sounds like a recipe for disaster).Believe what you hear If he’s already told you that he’s not interested in a long term commitment… And if a man tells you he’s not ready for a commitment, be sure to take him at his word.3. If he’s mostly living life like a single guy, look at those actions as strong indicators that he’s is not into a relationship right now and may not be for a very long time, if ever.4.Live your own life By living your own life and pursuing your own interests, you will be more attractive to him. He’ll see that you have your own friends and activities, leaving room for him to have his as well.Look to how the relationship has been going to get an idea of what a response might be, especially hints your partner might have dropped on the subject.