Imagine meeting a guy who said he'd only date girls with D cup boobs or larger. You'd also think his priorities were all out of whack — having big boobs has nothing to do with being a good partner, or even being a good lover or physically attractive. It's worth looking inside yourself, and seeing if height is what actually turns you on, or just what society has taught you to prize in a partner. A lot of men want to date a woman who is physically smaller than them, for the same reasons that a lot of women want to hook up with tall guys: that's how society says it should go, and it physically replicates our social ideas of the roles men and women should play in heterosexual relationships — that men should be big and powerful, and that women should be less powerful.That's why a guy who's game for dating a taller woman might have more progressive ideas about dating and women in general, too — a 2014 study suggested that men 5'7" and shorter did more housework, were less likely to get divorced, and were more open to dating older women.It has nothing to do with height, unless your main sexual fetish is being carried back and forth across a room, over and over again.Sexiness, virility, and even old-fashioned machismo are not outside the domain of shorter guys.Plus, the idea that the only way you can feel like a "real woman" in bed is to be smaller than your partner smells like anti-feminist propaganda to me, frankly.Why doesn't everyone just try to be whatever size they actually are, and just bang the hell out of each other that way?As much as being a tall woman may seem like a glorious thing, that kind of glory really caps out around 5'10" or so.When you cruise up over 6 feet, it starts to go in the other direction.
What are we saying when we say we want a big man to make us feel tiny?Listen, what turns you on is what turns you on, and if you can really only get a wide-on for dudes over six feet, that's a-okay.But if you're only into tall guys, I would urge you to think about why you'll only date tall guys.With a short dude, there's no problem — all your parts align, and you're free to get creative, instead of spending all your time just trying to get your genitals on the same visual plane. Short guys know they are short, and very few of them will demand that you make concessions about it (the ones who do are jerks, obvi).Short men live two years longer than tall men, on average — good news for any of my fellow morbid straight women who spend an inordinate amount of time wondering if they or their partner will die first.The absolute quickest way that I filter through men that I might be interested in is by height. When you spend 96.4% of your life taller than everyone around you, it is a pretty awesome thing when someone makes you feel small, more specifically when he's handsome and hugging you. At first it was strictly flattering, but then I started to experience a hint of frustration. The only reason we can't date is because of my height?