), or if it’s better to wait until a man—my man— pursues me with the intention of marriage. I’ve realized by personal experience and by observing the dating (or non-dating) lives of the Christian adults around me that many of us are relationally stunted. We don’t know how to date, because we’ve never done it or we’ve never done it right. From the very first chapter, the authors set up the premise that they are, in some ways, addressing the “kiss dating good-bye” approach promoted just a couple years before was released in the year 2000.
While traveling the country, speaking to singles about dating, the authors, psychologists Drs.
very nice :)I personally realized what it was that never worked in past relationships, and how to step through each day in dating in order to get the most out of a relationship, and not let tendencies of my X-generation determine the fate of my relationship.
I’ve wrestled with what I believe about dating, its purpose, and whether or not it’s good for me to date (with proper boundaries, of course!
Some highlights of the book for me were the sections that addressed the importance of a solid base of friendship in dating relationships, the warnings of premature commitment and over-involvement (in other words, “too much, too fast”), and the admonishment to live out relationships in the context of community, as opposed to isolation.
I also liked that the authors addressed respect and disrespect thoroughly, as how we treat one another, confront one another, value one another’s experiences, and listen to one another’s opinions are key to any healthy relationship.
The authors remind the readers that we ought to “bring dating before God and ask for his guidance.
After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.” They also pose the all-important question young adults need to honestly ask themselves: “Does [the dating relationship] bring you closer to God, or push you further away?
I’m that girl who reads almost every relationship book on the Christian market. I’m that girl who loves Jesus, and fervently desires to get married, have children, and continue to serve in ministry for the rest of my days.