If we had been caught we would have been in trouble or considered in sin and shunning would have been necessary.When I tell people about my experience with parties some are shocked that Amish teenagers would ever do something like this.In my experience, if I was on a date I could stay up until in the morning visiting with my date but those who were not on a date were required to be home by midnight.These rules were sometimes followed and sometimes not.This happens when a person violates the "Ordnung." For example, if a man or woman uses technology that is forbidden in the community, this would be considered a sin.
Therefore, Amish teens are allowed to roam free and experiment with activities that are normally forbidden before they officially join the church. It's a period when some Amish boys and girls are no longer under the control of their parents on weekends and, since they are not baptized, not under the control of the church. The sleeves are usually three-quarter length and the neck is rounded.Teens with a trade don't have idle time to get in trouble.An Amish can be excommunicated from the Amish community for committing a sin.This is also the time for the boys to take the girls on dates.In my experience (24 years living as an Amish person) it was not okay for the girls to ask boys on a date, the boys always asked the girls.Unmarried girls wear white aprons and prayer caps; married women, black.